Are you being true?

Are you being true?

Do you dread what you have to do everyday? Or do you wake up excited about every day?

I know, I know, you can't be happy everyday - that's life. But, if you are in a job you hate, if you don't enjoy the time you spend with some people, if you don't like where you live, what you eat, what you wear, if you feel you need to maintain a certain image to be accepted - why?

Do you know you are only here once? Why do we live a life we don't love? (and don't get me wrong, I was there). Surely we have all known someone who was taken from this world way too soon. I was listening to a podcast while I was working the other day, (I love a good podcast!) and the suggestion was to write your eulogy. A bit morbid I know, but would you feel like to you accomplished everything you wanted to?

Mine would have read: Sam woke up everyday dreading the conversations she would have with people talking about what a great day it was because nobody wanted to hear if she was having a bad day. But as she had invested so much money into her business she felt trapped and that she couldn't walk away from it to help her realise the happiness she wanted. Her kids hated the business she created because she spent more time working than spending it with them.

That WAS my story. But I think we wake up one day and think 'what am I doing?' This is ridiculous! I closed my business. I took some time out to rediscover 'me' and reconnect with my kids. I refocused on what I really love to do. I love to cook and create but without the pressures of a café. My husband changed jobs and we accepted that we wouldn't chase the dollar anymore and instead chase the joy of living each day.

Yes, there are still just bad days - stuff still goes wrong. But I don't always say 'yes' now. I have stepped back from many things and accepted its ok to slow down. It took me a long time to realise that I didn't always have to have something on. If someone asked me to do something and I had time I would always say yes - now, even if I have time I decide if its something that will fill my cup.

This is the first summer that I have been able to spend with my boys and truly have fun with them without stressing about what to do with them over the holidays while I got some work done. And I feel honored to be able to do this now. But we consciously made a lot of changes in our life so that we 'ran it', not 'it ran us'.

I have had a few people comment on how 'easy' it is for us as we don't have to answer to anyone else in business decisions. Well, if you don't like the situation you are in, change it. And if you choose financial reasons over your happiness, accept how it makes you feel. We all have a choice, but you will choose what's more important.

"One day you will wake up and there will be no more time to do the things you have always dreamed of. Do them now." Paulo Coelho


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